Assesment-Affair

Affair Vulnerbility Assesment

My personal activities have gradually excluded my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I frequently have negative thoughts towards my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I find myself attracted to pornography (men) or romance novels (women).

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

My partner and I have virtually no sex life.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I have begun to look outside my marriage to get my needs met.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am dissatisfied with the sexual and emotional intimacy in my marriage.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am more dependent on other’s approval of me than my partner’s.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I have begun to confide more in others than in my partner (especially those of the opposite sex).

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

My eyes tend to wander.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I have lost touch with or no longer care about my partner’s needs or feelings.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I find myself questioning whether or not we should have gotten married.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am too busy for my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I presently don’t have a strategy to protect myself from sexual temptation.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I believe that an affair could never happen to either me or my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I currently feel vulnerable to an affair.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am feeling Spiritually void and empty.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

My partner and I no longer communicate.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I enjoy flirting with others and see no danger in it.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I maintain relationships that could hinder my marriage.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

My partner is concerned that certain people are flirting with me but I think my partner is wrong, I do not trust his/her discernment.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am attracted to someone other than my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I frequently entertain sexual fantasies.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I feel unloved and uncared for by my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

My marriage has become a duty and holds no joy for me.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I struggle with negative thoughts towards my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am not attracted/attractive to my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I am no longer interested in sex with my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I often compare my partner to others.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

I have been deeply wounded by my partner.

Less True - 1 2 3 4 5 - More True

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Disclaimer: This assessment is in no way meant for diagnostic purposes. It is simply a self scoring tool to help you identify areas you might choose to develop or patterns you might choose to change in your life. It could also indicate your need for a coach.

The greatest thing you can do for your marriage is to take the time to grow and develop as an individual."

—Scott & Sandy Tremp